Blog 22 An important message from me. and one last story of high school.

(How this picture became so fun)

        In my Senior year, both my sisters were pregnant. Mary had her son in February,1979, and Anna was due in August. Anna had set up with Olan Mills for a family picture when she was seven months pregnant. When it was time for the shooting, I was the only one available, so we agreed to go and not lose her deposit. 

      When we arrived the photographer assumed we were man and wife and took pictures that made you think the same. When the pictures were ready, we thought they were great so we kept the originals. This was my favorite and I remember that it was a blast doing it!

(Sometimes you just cannot win.)

        I was still dating Tina when the Senior Prom came around. This time I was going to take her and signed us up as coming. Tina and I shared my larger Senior locker. About two weeks before the prom, she was absent from school and I became concerned, but her sister told me not to call. Well, Tina’s best friend sat behind me in homeroom. 

      Wednesday, we always reported to our homeroom and her friend handed me a letter to read, and she said she promised Tina she would not give it to me until then. It was a very sad, disturbing letter telling me she ran away to her real mother in Maryland, not because of me, but because her father had been abusing her physically, mentally, and sexually and she could not take it anymore. She did not want me to know she was leaving because it might cause her father and I to try to talk her in to staying or him thinking I helped her leave. 

        I was crushed and angry. I had to take our names off the prom list. That same day her father called me and told me he knew I helped her escape. He told me to be watching behind me because one day he would be there and would kill me. I tried to tell him I just found out, but he did not believe me. He again threatened me and I hung up. It took me weeks to come back to my senses. I got a call from Tina to tell me she was sorry. I told her it was the right thing to do and I was glad she had the courage to leave. I never heard from her again for about eight years.

(Breaking News)

          Because of all the molesting allegations going around this week,(2018 Me Too Movement), I felt obligated to tell everyone that after the day I told my dad, while holding Anthony in my arms, that there will be no more and that if I found out he attempted to to try anything with him it would be his last, I started making it my goal to fight for children’s rights. But after I graduated and had nephews and a niece that I wanted to watch over, this made me more concern. Although it took me fifty years to talk about it, which I now know was wrong, I took it in a different direction.

        However, children need to be monitored and told more by parents and adults in charge that these type of actions are wrong. Predators use the tactic of making you feel special and/or tell you they would never get to be in your life again. I had the same reaction that most victims have. I was made to feel special, I loved my father and did not want to lose that love, and it was something I did not want the blame. Even when my doctor and the others were never in my life again, I was embarrassed to admit it. For years I kept people wondering and kids can be very evil when they do not know the truth, but have an opinion. And lastly, most of the time you enjoy it. (Boy, that was hard to say.)

        I put it so far back in my mind, I learned how to walk. talk, react, and kept myself in a group of people that left others….. just not sure. I went MANY years not even truly knowing how I felt. And, once you become an adult, it frees you to be yourself. I had to make decisions that should never have been there. It was very confusing. I was taught that you honor women, but was also thinking it was nothing wrong with other guys. It meant    nothing to me. This is where I am in my life at eighteen. I beg everyone to have a talk with your kids about it. They have a voice.

         This was not what I was going to say in this blog, but I just felt it needed to be said! I am sending this blog out like this, and will get to the nitty gritty of my party days in the next blog, which I will post on November 19th) hopefully in 2 blogs. Thank-you for allowing me to post it and if you have never SHARED my blog before, please do it this time!

• 10th Nov 2017
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