Blog 53A Finding and Leaving Neverland (Short blog)

Before I say my peace, I ask everyone to NOT picture Michael Jackson! This is about molestation and the reality of it. I watched the HBO documentary about the two young boys and it took me a week to respond. Let me say that I believe the men! If you have read my earlier blogs you will see similarities.

The predator makes you feel special. They zero in on your weaknesses and use it to keep you quiet. And, the most important thing will be a threat that, if you tell, you could get in trouble or lose friends and support. They make you feel like it would be all your fault and your life would never be the same. (This is not the only things, but they do fall into this category.)

I wrote my story before the “Me Too” movement. I say this so you know I was not jumping on the bandwagon. It was from my heart and my memories. Molestation almost always happens by someone close to you or someone you respect. I am not a professional about this subject, but these programs could help others to look back at things that have happened in your family or maybe something you have seen from the children of your friends.

Even though my life went haywire, that was my choice. I, also, chose to be a child advocate. I love children, they make your world happier. If I even think a child is being abused, or need a friend to talk, I will make a fool of myself in public to bring it to others attention. I , also, vowed to be a great example to the children in my life. I tried very hard to show them that they were special in ways that had nothing to do with adults doing things inappropriately. All the while, keeping my past a mystery to them.

Watch the program before you watch it with your children. Then watch it with them and assure them they may talk to you. If you embarrass them, you will lose them. If you have ANY reasons to think your children could be involved, pray that God give you the way to deal with it. Assure your children will be safe and tell them things that might put them in harms way. Accept your child for whatever they tell you. Again, if you do not believe them or they think you feel it is their fault, you will lose their faith.

Children will react in different ways, but the main thing to get across is that you believe them and you support them. And, take a stand to create an environment for any children you have the honor to be in charge, that they are safe with you.

(on my homepage, is a private line to me and I will assure you that we will correspond privately and you may talk to me about anything and it WILL NEVER get out to anyone else. Please feel safe enough to talk privately. This is for parents, children, or those who have been mistreated in their past.)